Quiet Delusions
It amazes me what we subject each other to in relationships but perhaps the most foremost to me is this idea of a quiet delusion that we all seem to suffer at least once in our lifetimes. When things first start out, we are so fascinated by the outer layers of a human being that we fabricated or create these idealistic notions of the inner layers of an individual. We delude ourselves into truly believing that our delusions are real, that those characteristics are a summation of who that person really is. As time goes on we start to see their inner lights, their true selves and then we do the unthinkable—we accuse them of changing.
The truth is, they never changed (okay maybe just a little). We just fabricated a fantasized view of them that is just a shallow breath from perfection. Then we try to mold them, bend them into what we want them to be. And when they fail—we break their hearts and spirits for failing the impossible. How dare we?
Solution: Get to know a person before jumping into a pool in the dead of winter naked… if you end up loving who they are then great!
if not?: Find someone who fits or comes pretty damn close to your ideals.
Here is a haiku followed by a poem about delusion(ok not really but read it anyway):
A haiku: what love is not
Love is not about…
Ideals. It’s about trust and
Ideals. It’s about trust and
Acceptance… just love.
Never Been
If I could just have,
One moment of closeness
One moment of closeness
To feel the warmth
To know or even guess
I would be
I think these things
Then I push these thoughts, Away.
I'm not meant to be with you, I realize.
Letting go of something,
I've never had, has never been so hard.
To say goodbye to someone, I have never really known,
Never have I ever missed, Something that was never there.
My heart has never ever been this broken,
For a love that has & Never Been.
For a love that has & Never Been.
Christy Gibson
Copyright ©2009 Christy Gibson
AKA C. Dominique Gibson
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